Broad-ly Speaking run boutique speaking events where key women speakers from all around New Zealand are invited to tell their story and share some profound advice (all within four minutes each). The gals behind the movement asked me to write a little something for their website – which I’ve also posted below…
Since the day my nana was married, at the tender age of nineteen, she has assumed and nailed the role of a “traditional housewife”. As incredible as I think she is, I thank my lucky stars that things have changed, and continue to change, when it comes to our roles as women in this day and age. I would never have cut it as a 1950’s housewife.
Although, I am currently what you’d call a “stay-at-home-mum”. My daily tasks include keeping my kid alive, doing the washing, changing nappies, feeding the baby (and myself), managing the (baby’s) social calendar, bathing the baby, etcetera. When I get a moment to myself I write – as a freelancer and as a hobby.
I love that our roles, whether it’s around the house, socially or vocationally, don’t define us. The day-to-day activities I do (or don’t do) don’t make me any more or less of a woman.
As a new mum I’ve been surprised, and delighted, by how I’ve managed to make the space to be creative, to dream, and even do a little of the work I love to do. Even if it’s just for a moment at a time. And to be honest, without doing these things I wouldn’t have the gumption to be the mum (or person) I aspire to be.
I could easily feel guilty about allowing myself the time to be creative, instead of cleaning the loos while the baby sleeps – and sometimes I do. But I’m so convinced that we are inherently creative beings and we would be doing ourselves, and those around us, a disservice by neglecting this part of who we are.
One of my biggest aspirations is that we drop the lady-guilt about all the things we should be doing, and allow ourselves to make space to do the things that make us feel most alive. I believe that by doing this, we will flourish individually, as a community and as a nation.
*Photos courtesy of Broad-ly Speaking Instagram – taken by Nayhauss